When You Can’t Find it in Your Heart to Forgive
A conversation started on my Facebook page when somebody wrote a post about their struggle coping with forgiveness for a person who deeply hurt them. Although the relationship has ended, this person’s struggle continues. This person is struggling to forgive this person.
Firstly, I would like to clarify that this post is about the benefits of forgiving the person who has hurt you.
Secondly, it’s a reminder that when we find ourselves struggling to forgive our enemy, we are not alone. We are never alone for those who believe and have faith in Christ.
Question: How can we support a loved one coping with this?
We may know someone, or it could be yourself feeling lost in turmoil, struggling to forgive someone so we can move forward. The person who wrote the post typed out their struggles. and a wave of love and support followed in the comments.
An old friend of mine posted the below comment and is quite powerful. It’s something a pastor (Pastor Scott) at his church shared with the congregation.
Fighters, Fire Starters, and Peacemaker’s
Fighters are those who will do anything negative to counter your positive feelings and willing to confront you on almost everything and anything.
Fire starters are those who will try to get at you by annoying you to the point that an argument ensues. These people are also attention grabbers.
Peacemakers are those that see the good in everyone even though they are bad! Finds the positive in any situation and seizes the moment.Pastor Scott
I agree with the Pastor Scott’s viewpoint on Fire Starters and Fighters, but completely disagree with his viewpoint on Peacemakers. In Matthew Chapter 5, verse 9, Christ says, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God.
What is a peacemaker according to the Bible? The King James Version Dictionary Definition of a peacemaker is one who makes peace by reconciling parties that are at variance. So no, I don’t think they are bad.
The Almighty Father feels our pain and knows what Is in our hearts. He knows our every joy and tear. By forgiving those who hurt us, we help ourselves. We emerge stronger when we forgive, with peace of heart and mind. The Lord is not ignoring us in times of difficulty, rather he is carrying the burden with us.
“The Almighty Father feels our pain and knows what Is in our hearts. He knows our every joy and tear. By forgiving those who hurt us, we help ourselves. We emerge stronger when we forgive, with peace of heart and mind. The Lord is not ignoring us in times of difficulty, rather he is carrying the burden with us.” ~Spiritual Love WarriorTweet
If we reach out to him and ask for help to forgive, he will be there.
I’ve been disrespected and betrayed too many times to count, yet the Lord helped me move past it because I asked for his help (and had faith in him). The people who hurt me no longer have dominion over my heart and happiness. Show the world you fought the good fight and came out above and beyond the ciaos, happy and at peace. The inner strength and freedom you achieve is priceless.
Watch an emotional example of the power of forgiveness
Matthew’s song “Forgiveness” is the bottom video. Have a blessed day my brothers and sisters in Christ.
Do you have a story or experience with reaching forgiveness? Please share in the comments section below. Someone may need to hear your story and feel hope.
Have a blessed day my brothers and sisters in Christ. I love you.